Break ups suck. It doesn't matter what age you are or what situation you're in, they jut plain suck. An older lady at the funeral I was at gave me this advice after talking about another gal who is my age and currently boyfriend-less after a break up.
It wasn't like I was asking for advice, but she said: "It doesn't really matter if you have a boyfriend or not." （我们是过来人 or someone who has been around the block） "As someone who's been around the block, I can tell you at this age, it's not going to matter, my husband is great and all, but what's more important is that you have to be able to support yourself."
Thinking of you.
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ReplyDeleteHey I have not been checking your blog!!! Glad you are writing again. (but sorry about the break up!)
ReplyDeleteAlso, my 2 cents on the marriage thing - here's how it went for me. In 2007 I was so positive that I didn't want marriage, kids, etc. I would see other people starting fams and just think, "um, am I supposed to want this?"
But when I started dating Sean things changed - to a certain extent. I could tell that he would be a great husband, versus other previous boyfriends who I always had some kind of communication issues with. But yet was I really ready for marriage? It was tough... we had some huge fights, mostly regarding me wanting to still travel, not 'settle down', etc.
Basically I thought about things and I determined that I *wanted* to have a life partner, but I would never be *ready*. So I would just have to take the plunge and make the commitment to making it work. It's like quitting smoking. (Is that a horrible thing to say about marriage? Oops.)
Anyway if you want it, you can definitely make it work. But if you don't want it, that is 100% acceptable!! There - probably more than 2 cents worth of ramble. :)